Mum…just as important as the bride on a wedding day
Aside from my husband, my mum is my absolute best friend. We are super close and it was hugely important to me that my mum had the time of her life on my wedding day. Sadly, her husband – my dear stepdad – is in care with alzheimers and although he could make it along for a precious hour of our wedding, essentially mum faced the day on her own.
With such a rough couple of years behind her, mum felt she needed some professional attention to ensure she didn’t look how she had been feeling…drained, emotional and, in her words, ten years older than she was.
On the day, my mum could not have looked more incredible. Despite not being a one for make-up previously, she allowed the expert to work her magic and I’m sure she turned as many heads as me, the bride, on the day.
I’m sure my mum isn’t alone when it comes to feeling the pressure of looking her best on her daughter’s big day. In fact, wedding specialist make-up artist Celina Keywood (www.makeupbycelina.co.uk) has made it her mission to make mums of brides and grooms – and even nans – feel a million dollars on their special day.
“I don’t usually wear make-up” is something I hear a lot when first meeting mothers of the bride or groom for a trial or on the wedding day itself. I often find mums don’t want to feel like they are in the spotlight and that all eyes are on them, wanting to be almost invisible, which makes me feel quite sad. Having devoted much of their life to their children, they have sometimes forgotten their own identity and lost some confidence along the way. They are thinking they need to look their best for their beloved daughter’s/son’s special day rather than wanting a makeover for their own benefit.
Just a few tweaks can make the difference. It’s a subtle but with definition look I find works best for mums. Eye shadow, when applied in the right way, can reduce the look of hooded lids and give an uplift in shape. Contouring brings out the cheekbones and defines the jaw line, reducing the look of jowls which start creeping in as we get a little older. There are lots of tricks a good make-up artist can do to help hide any unloved features – apart from wrinkles – that, we can do nothing about!
Mums often say to me “lashes aren’t for me” when I suggest individual ones. Having heard this hundreds of times and seen 99% of these mums change their mind the minute they go on, I now do insist they pop them on just to try them anyway. They open up the eye (fab for older, hooded eyes), give a little extra va va voom, without being overly obvious. So yes, I get a little bossy now when it comes to lashes, as the right type do make all the difference.
I love being able to give mums that boost of confidence the right make-up can bring – just holding their head that bit higher – and that, for me, makes my job a real pleasure.
So, don’t forget to include your beloved mums when you are getting your make-up done on the big day, even when they say “oh no, don’t worry about me”.